I was thinking that this pillow (I bought 2) would be soft like the blankets that I also bought appeared they would be but they are soft to the touch but very firm so you can't lie on them and they are not comfortable to lean on. I decided it was too expensive to send them back plus the box my blankets and pillows were delivered in was too torn up upon arrival so I couldn't reuse it. You could see the contents because it was all ripped open and bashed in which was not the best way to receive such expensive items. I would rather have been able to return the pillows and buy a smaller blanket since I bought 2 XL blankets not realizing just how big they are plus now having these pillows I'm not sure what to do with so I'm kind of stuck because they all cost quite a bit and I am having a hard time deciding what to do because it was quite a financial investment already. All in all, I recommend the blankets but not the pillows. ☹️